Breast Fed, Bottle Fed... Fed Up

When did being a parent become so competitive? If you remember my last post, you know that I mention a few times how it's very difficult to not compare your baby's achievements to other babies, and how it can all become so... exhausting. 

So, what is this ongoing debate between bottle fed babies and breastfed babies? Why is there even a line of separation? At the end of the day, isn't it just a matter of feeding your baby?

I am on my 10th month of nursing Lennon, and while it has been one of the coolest things I have ever done, it has also been the most challenging thing throughout my short stint at motherhood. There were days, weeks, even months where she wouldn't nurse in public (NIP as I like to call it) and I had to bring a pump and bottle with me every time I left the house. One time, I actually had to milk myself in my car at a mall parking lot while she screamed in the backseat because I forgot my pump at home. Yes, you read that right. I had to physically milk myself as if I didn't already feel enough like a freaking cow. Needless to say, there is now a manual pump which forever lives in my dashboard. Lesson learned. 

Anyways, do I love breastfeeding? Yes. Do I think I would have loved motherhood any less if I wasn't able to or gave up when I was losing sleep and years off my life? No, not at all. Do I think Lennon would be less healthy, less happy, or less herself if she had formula instead of breast milk? Absolutely not. 

So why the great divide?

Why make moms and dads feel guilty for deciding to go with formula instead of crying themselves to sleep every night because their supply is low, or because they didn't accept donated breast milk from a stranger? Can we all just stop this debate and agree that there are simply more important things to worry about, like did you have time to shower this week? Did you brush your teeth this morning? Why is Mother Goose Clubhouse playing again?

In the end, whether you think "breast is best" or "formula fascinates" can we all just agree that fed babies are the best babies?