Stop Staring at My T*t@! - A Breastfeeding Journey in the 21st Century

"Why don't you take a picture, it'll last longer!"

"Keep staring maybe I'll do a trick!"

"What the fuck are you looking at?"

These have all crossed my mind and possibly my lips over these previous 12 months as a nursing mama. I am beyond certain that I am not alone in the constant battle between nursing in public (NIP) and bystanders having to "witness" the atrocity that is a mom feeding her child. But, why do I feel like it's still an issue?

Well, because it is. 

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Must-Haves for Breastfeeding in the Early Days

High up there on the list of things people never tell you about pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum is how difficult breastfeeding can be, especially in the beginning. In an effort to break the silence, I’ve been very open about my struggle to breastfeed my son during the first month of his life. Every problem you can think of, we had it: latching difficulties, poor latch, lazy eating, fussy eating, the list goes on. 

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ITAV Described in 10 Simple Steps

So, when we set out to create a community and an easy way to care for your newborn, we didn't think we were reinventing the wheel! BUT, based on some serious feedback and questions, we realized, we may not have been as clear as to what ITAV is, what it can do, and who it can do it for. So, voila! We give you, ITAV as described in 10 simple steps, with some cute icons as well. 

If you are still confused, please, please, please comment below or email us at hello@thefirst12-weeks.com. 

 

1. We picked the brains of new parents everywhere to find out which items helped them with their newborn baby.

2. This research was repeated until we had a large enough sample size to select our products deemed "newborn necessities." 

3. We then partnered with the top brand names in the industry and made them part of the ITAV bundle boxes.

4. Delivered directly to your front door, in one fast shipment, before baby arrives.

5. These carefully selected products are now available to parents everywhere via the ITAV website.

6. Helping to save time by eliminating the guesswork on which items are needed in those early days, weeks, and months.

7. Helping to save money on items you will need. 

8. Making these bundle boxes perfect as baby shower gifts.

9. As a push gift or as a treat to yourself for being a parent!

10. And since they are baby focused, and not parent focused, they are perfect for Dad, too!

"You Look Like Shit" And Other Endearing Terms from my Mom

Ah, motherhood. The slap-in-your-face reality check you are never really prepared for. It's the constant reminder that your old life filled with sleep, sanity, and sex is now gone. Long fucking gone. And all you are left with is a shadow, nay a fraction, of the person you once were before this tiny human came along and ruined everything. You cling on to dear life to some sort of resemblance of "having it all together" and you try so, so hard to keep your home and life in order. But fail miserably.

Good thing you have a great support system, or so you support system says...

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Be Baby Shower Ready - A Guide to all Those Gifts

So, after my baby registry with my friends, and after my editing to my registry, and even after all my research, I still came up short. How can that be? Well, it's because until you go through this, you don't really know that you need. It would be like me telling a mechanic what he needs to build an engine. I've never done it, right? So, how in the bloody hell would I even know where to begin? That's sort of what parenthood is like. As a mom of an almost one-year-old, I'm still trying to figure out how to build this freaking engine. 

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A Response to "Bad Moms" Everywhere

Are we all "bad moms" or just honest ones? Does going out with friends, or ditching the occasional baseball game classify being a bad parent, or someone who just needs a break? Why do we feel guilty when we take some much needed "me" time This bad mom speaks from experience. 

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Traveling with baby: Three reasons you shouldn't be terrified

Coming off of a recent family vacation, it dawned on me how much this whole "traveling with baby" concept terrified me. I remember my first flight with Lennon when she was only 5 months old and thinking, "Oh my God, please don't let us be 'those people' on the flight." Obviously, I was referring to "those people" who have that screaming, inconsolable kid who could not be calmed, soothed, tamed or even bribed into being well-behaved. We've all seen it and many of us have experience it. 

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Breast Fed, Bottle Fed... Fed Up

What's better, bottle fed or breast fed? Does it really matter when it comes to the health of the baby or the parent?

When did being a parent become so competitive? If you remember my last post, you know that I mention a few times how it's very difficult to not compare your baby's achievements to other babies, and how it can all become so... exhausting. 

So, what is this ongoing debate between bottle fed babies and breastfed babies? Why is there even a line of separation? At the end of the day, isn't it just a matter of feeding your baby?

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Unsolicited Parent Advice: Friend or Foe?

We all have those people in our lives, the ones who voice their opinion even when uninvited. The ones who have read the most recent study, or watched a video, or read an article on Facebook. The ones who.know.everything. 

Being a parent makes these people appear out of the woodwork. It seems that all of a sudden everyone is an expert in all things baby, and you start to doubt yourself from the second you walk out of the hospital room. 

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Why it Really Takes a Village to Raise a Baby

If this is your first time to ITAV, then you may not know my back story, or even why this entire website, company, and support system even exist. I am a recently new mom to my Lennon, and although things are easier now, they were incredibly difficult in the beginning. Had it not been for my amazing support group of moms, dads, family members, "breast friends" (as I called my moms I met in my breast feeding support group), and the lovely internet, I would never have made it through the first 12-weeks. Oh, and of course, my darling husband, who I am sure you will get to know very well through these blogs, social media posts, and anything else which allows you a sneak peak into my life.

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