10 Things NOT to Say to New Parents - A Conversation Guide for Non-Parents

We've all been there before. That palm-meet-face moment when you wish you could take back something you just said to a relative or friend, only to remember that time travel is not yet possible and that you are now screwed. Typically, these comments can be excused and marked as ignorance or plain stupidity, but there is an instance where this type of behavior is not excusable. 

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Friends Don't Let Friends Parent Alone

It's easy to console a stressed out parent and assure them everything is going to be okay when your own kid is on a well-behaved, healthy streak and you are getting 8+ hours of sleep every night. It's not so easy to offer said advice when you haven't slept in weeks and are about to lose your mind. The trick to solving this give-advice-get-advice-use-advice method is simple: accept the advice you give to others no matter the circumstance. 

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Stop Staring at My T*t@! - A Breastfeeding Journey in the 21st Century

"Why don't you take a picture, it'll last longer!"

"Keep staring maybe I'll do a trick!"

"What the fuck are you looking at?"

These have all crossed my mind and possibly my lips over these previous 12 months as a nursing mama. I am beyond certain that I am not alone in the constant battle between nursing in public (NIP) and bystanders having to "witness" the atrocity that is a mom feeding her child. But, why do I feel like it's still an issue?

Well, because it is. 

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Be Baby Shower Ready - A Guide to all Those Gifts

So, after my baby registry with my friends, and after my editing to my registry, and even after all my research, I still came up short. How can that be? Well, it's because until you go through this, you don't really know that you need. It would be like me telling a mechanic what he needs to build an engine. I've never done it, right? So, how in the bloody hell would I even know where to begin? That's sort of what parenthood is like. As a mom of an almost one-year-old, I'm still trying to figure out how to build this freaking engine. 

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Breast Fed, Bottle Fed... Fed Up

What's better, bottle fed or breast fed? Does it really matter when it comes to the health of the baby or the parent?

When did being a parent become so competitive? If you remember my last post, you know that I mention a few times how it's very difficult to not compare your baby's achievements to other babies, and how it can all become so... exhausting. 

So, what is this ongoing debate between bottle fed babies and breastfed babies? Why is there even a line of separation? At the end of the day, isn't it just a matter of feeding your baby?

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Unsolicited Parent Advice: Friend or Foe?

We all have those people in our lives, the ones who voice their opinion even when uninvited. The ones who have read the most recent study, or watched a video, or read an article on Facebook. The ones who.know.everything. 

Being a parent makes these people appear out of the woodwork. It seems that all of a sudden everyone is an expert in all things baby, and you start to doubt yourself from the second you walk out of the hospital room. 

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Why it Really Takes a Village to Raise a Baby

If this is your first time to ITAV, then you may not know my back story, or even why this entire website, company, and support system even exist. I am a recently new mom to my Lennon, and although things are easier now, they were incredibly difficult in the beginning. Had it not been for my amazing support group of moms, dads, family members, "breast friends" (as I called my moms I met in my breast feeding support group), and the lovely internet, I would never have made it through the first 12-weeks. Oh, and of course, my darling husband, who I am sure you will get to know very well through these blogs, social media posts, and anything else which allows you a sneak peak into my life.

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